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    We all experience anxiety sometimes. It can make us feel crazy. Ultimately, if we practice mindfulness meditation the anxiety often dissipates. In reality however, meditating is sometimes too far a stretch from where we are, and we need to be Mindful of what is needed. I use two conceptual models that give a cognitive understanding of […]

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    It is not the difficulties that arise in life that unbalance us; it is our emotional responses to those difficulties  When our internal experience keeps us from connecting with ourselves in a calm and peaceful way we might react in one of three ways. We can respond: wanting to hold on, wanting to push away, […]

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      We tend to be gracious, ordered and successful in the areas of life we value most.   And we are vulnerable to feeling guilt, resentment, comparisons or sadness when others are gracious, ordered and successful in different areas. We can feel inadequate, or superior next to someone who is doing better/worse than us, forgetting that […]

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    We all know that the way we speak to each other and the words we use have great power. Not only do the words we speak to others have great power, the words we speak to ourselves have great power as this famous writing from one of the main Buddhists texts articulates so well.   “The […]

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    People trust – and follow – people who are real, who are consistent, whose behaviour, values and beliefs are aligned. We trust people we do not constantly have to second guess. I recently gave the closing speech at Adelaide’s first Mindfulness Symposium for The Royal Adelaide Hospital Wellness Centre. All people who are influencing others are practicing […]

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    Jon Kabat-Zinn gave an impassioned plea in the opening keynote at the First International Conference on Mindfulness in Rome in May.  He implored us not to water mindfulness down to just a skill, a series of exercises from a short course, a meta cognitive approach to thoughts, or just being present.   It is all of […]

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    Or so I was told by a leading Lama in Bhutan in 2004 In the autumn of 2004 I travelled to Bhutan with George Burns, psychologist and author of several books on happiness and healing.  Nestled in the Himalayas bordering Tibet, Bhutan is the most traditional Buddhist country in the world, the last country in the […]

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    Confidence is not about the absence of insecurities Confidence is not about the absence of insecurities, but rather, it is about not collapsing into our insecurities. Manfred Kets De Vries published results from his Doctoral research in the Harvard Business review in which he explored the biggest problems faced by Fortune 500 CEO’s. Fortune 500 companies […]

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    Relationship Conflict: learning to be mindful We all experience conflict with others at times.  It is a normal, albeit uncomfortable part of life.   We can feel confused, reactive, hurt, avoidant, angry and a myriad of other emotions as we react to what we think is going on.  This can make the distinction between difference and […]

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    Stillness In stillness we rest deeply. Our minds are quiet and calm. We are un-conflicted. We are profoundly rested. Sometimes we think there is no time to be still, and sometimes we are scared to quiet our minds for fear of what will arise. We learn however that over time as we allow ourselves to […]

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    Shame Shame is a powerful emotion used worldwide as a tool for inculcating socially acceptable behaviour.   While guilt is described as ‘a fear of being judged by ourselves’, shame is ‘the fear of being judged by others’. While the centuries old debate about mind vs the brain, and whether consciousness exists without the brain continues, […]